New mothers have a lot in common. For one thing, we’ve all got babies. For another, we’re all incredibly confused. Don’t let the mom who looks like she has it all together fool you; she’s just as mixed-up and frazzled as the rest of us.
Anyone who has a child is looking for answers. Trust me on this one: nobody knows the best way to parent your child. Nobody, that is, except you. Not your grandma, not your mom, not your neighbor, and not the parenting expert with the best-selling book on how to get your child to sleep. (Do babies sleep? I really don’t think mine did until they were in preschool.) These people all know a lot and are worth listening to, but they don’t know your baby like you do.
As a new mom, you have a lot of questions, and they start before the baby is even born.
Should I play music for my unborn baby?
Should I give birth at home, in a birthing center, or in a hospital?
Should I breastfeed or bottle feed?
Should I use disposable diapers or cloth diapers?
Should I co-sleep or put baby in her own room?
Should I go to my baby every time he cries or let him cry it out?
Should I? Should I? Should I?
And, probably the scariest: What if I mess up?
Ask anyone who’s had a kid on her hip for a few years, and she’ll tell you this: you will mess up. But you know what? It’s going to be OK.
So what’s the secret? What’s the all-purpose parenting plan that will ensure little Junior sleeps through the night, reads by the age of two, gets into an Ivy League school, and wins a Nobel Peace Prize?
That’s easy. Just be Mom.
I’m not saying you should ignore the information you get. Far from it. Read your books and blogs, talk to your friends and family, ask your pediatrician, and take a deep breath. Somewhere, in all the advice and tips and tricks, you will find the answers to your questions. As you get to know your baby and start to define your own parenting style, you’ll be able to make sense of all that noise. You’ll figure out which end is up.
And remember this: You are strong. You are Mom. You are enough.
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